b. Moral Kombat!

2) 'Take Down':  HOW TO ASK SOMEONE TO LEAVE

If a Community Member has to be asked to leave the property after their First Warning, always give them the option to return once the problem behavior is modified. This creates hope for change and redemption which makes it less likely that they will create a scene and end the relationship by burning bridges.

However, if a situation becomes threatening in any way, we call the police. We pay our taxes so law enforcement is available to us. We never want any community member to feel threatened. Always feel free to call the police in any aggressive situation.

If a person's transgression was serious enough that they have to be asked to leave immediately. We practice what we call a 'Take Down'.

• Two interns should approach the person ideally in their lodging space.
• One Intern should have a phone in their hand predialled to 911. The other should explain the following and options:

"Due to violation of Hedonisia Community Guidelines you are being asked to leave. Normally when a person is asked to leave no refunds are given except under Compassionate Circumstances. 

1. Compassionate Refund. If you wish to receive a compassionate refund then you have to apply online through the Cancellation Form on the Reservation Info page at our website. You can only apply for a Compassionate Refund once you are off the property.
2. Burning Bridges. If you 'burn your bridges' by making any sort of drama or scene, you will be asked to leave immediately with police being called if necessary. This is private property and once a person is not welcome, they are trespassing.
3. Refund Amount & Reason. Hedonisia does NOT issue refunds for departures that the fault of the guest. However, in certain cases we will issue a partial refund. The amount you receive will be dependent on your behavior both on and off the property prior to receiving the Cancelation Form and the cleanliness state you leave your lodging in when you depart. The form has a section where you can briefly explain your reasons why you feel you should receive a partial refund despite being asked to leave.
4.  In addition, Hawaii is a small island and our recommendations and reviews of a person are respected. So we will give an honest assessment of our experience with them if anyone calls or asks for a referral.
5. Respectful Departure If you are respectful of our policies, demonstrate contrition, and create no more drama, clean their bed space and leave under friendly circumstance you may stay longer until you find another space and the Compassionate Refund will be higher.
6. Criminal Transgression. If you commit a criminal transgression at Hedonisia—for example, threatening behavior, severe sexual harassment or theft we can, in conjunction with the Directors, call the police to file a criminal complaint.

ANY NEGATIVE OR HOSTILE BEHAVIOR PRIOR TO LEAVING WILL HAVE A DIRECT IMPACT ON THE AMOUNT OF THE REFUND."

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3) Legal Hostility & Legal Protection

There are times when engaging without confrontation simply does not work. The situation escalates and the person turns aggressive, spiteful, or even criminal. This is where politically correct idealists often fail. In their desire to avoid confrontation many progressive people will choose to avoid rather than morally engage.

We argue that it is also moral to engage in a way that acts as a deterrent so that the person does not continue in their aggressive or criminal actions. We call this 'Moral Kombat' defined as, actively engaging to counteract a person who has broken the law that does not involve violence and is ethical and legal.

The Police. Over the history of Hedonisia we have learned that while many wonderful people love to come to our little piece of Hawaii, paradise also attracts sociopaths and criminals too!

In each case, what saved us was that we were not at all hesitant to call the police and/or go through the legal system. This is when it pays to be honest. Because one of the best forms of security is simple. It is known as the police!

When you pay taxes you are paying for your security. Police often concentrate their efforts on activities that many would argue are personal choices not crimes. We would say, let's keep the police busy solving real crimes rather than creating crime!

Politely dealing with the police is an important aspect of community security. It is for the protection of everyone including the intern who calls them. The police are very nice in Hawaii and they are trained to deal with potentially dangerous situations.

Hand the Registration Form to the police if necessary. As long as we get a Registration Form from every party who stays at Hedonisia, we have no problems! Based on past experience, once the police are shown the signed Registration Form they act upon it immediately and without question because they see we are a tourist establishment and not a rental agency. We updated our Registration Form with the help of our lawyer so it is even more legally binding. For example, the signing party of any group is now responsible for all the persons in their group as well as any visitors they may bring on the property

BLACK HATS and Black Mail!

Throughout the world, many intentional communities exist under the radar. Due to oppressive and excessive government regulations, communities are simply not legal in many countries. For example, in Hawaii there is a law which states no more than five unrelated adults can live together in the same building, in effect making all communities automatically illegal.

Communities will often try to deal in cash, not declare their taxes and use various other methods so as not to bring in government scrutiny. However, these practices can backfire.

In Maui, we know of one community whose owner operated in cash and did not complete tax forms. His manager ended up stealing $14,000. When confronted by the owner, he threatened to tell the IRS about the owner's tax avoidance activities. The owner not only didn't call the police, but actually paid more money to cut all ties with the man.

When you are living in the shadows, you are always subject to blackmail. Better to go through the system slowly and properly than to build a house of cards that collapses at the first incidence of criminality.

America is a country of individuals who have freedom and choice to roam the country. This is wonderful because it means if things are not working out in one place, a person can simply leave and go to another to begin anew.

We have met many such Americans at our community, who have left small towns and social controls behind to arrive at our little paradise community to start again. Most have been fantastic individuals.